As a coach I often reflecting back limiting beliefs to my clients. I say "reflect back" because part of what I do as a coach is point out language, habits and patterns that present themselves during our sessions. Limiting beliefs are assumptions we make and then hold as "the truth" which stop us from achieving our goals and intentions. They crop up in negative self-talk, that little voice in your head saying "your not good enough", "you will never lose weight", "I can't do this"... There are lots of techniques to shift these beliefs and develop positive, healthy, propelling habits. In essence you are shifting your internal programming which may have been wired by what your parents told you, a bad experience or a positive role model you had as a child. This is not an easy process but it is possible.
How can you tell if limiting beliefs are sabotaging your life?
- Your dreams and intentions are constantly alluding you, an illusive carrot hanging in front of you.
- You often begin things but don't see them through to fruition.
- You frequently talk yourself out of things that you really want
The hidden cost of limiting beliefs!
Recently I was coaching a client and a limiting belief presented itself in the conversation. I checked in with the client and she confirmed that she was holding the belief that "she could never get ahead". She is an extremely smart and intuitive women and she quickly realized that this language and thought pattern was not influencing her positively. Familiar with the power of using positive language and my mantra "What you focus on expands" she saw that the statement was holding her back but I became curious about what other effect this was having on her life so I posed the following scenario to her.
"Is there ever a time when you are about to make a purchase, something you really don't need but you really want (I like to call these bright shiny objects) and you tell yourself "why not, I'm never going to get ahead anyway?""
The penny dropped. Not only was this limiting belief about money holding her back she was using it to literally dig herself into a hole. I am sure she is not alone.
What has this got to do with my 100 day challenge?
As the deadline for this 100 day challenge approached I toyed with different things I could focus on. In the last challenge I focused on 3 things:
- Promoting my classes
- Putting together coaching 3 coaching packages
- No TV
What would I shine the spotlight on this time? The elephant in my living room is RED WINE- ahhh I said it. How could I bring it into my challenge? I do not want to eliminate it but instead shift it's place to a less featured role in my life, more of an extra in the background of a medieval crowd scene than the hot, red-headed, starlet on a block buster movie. As I pondered this I realized this would be an excellent opportunity to document the process of shifting habits and to use real life examples to explain some of the techniques I use in my coaching as well as a great way to develop new ones.
So for all of you out there that have been asking how do I change my habits, break thru my barrier or achieve my goals...
Watch this space!
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